Happyness

This is not about the movie by Will Smith. What is happiness? It's a state of being content. How do we achieve it? By undergoing pain and suffering. How come? Aha, this is the purpose of this post to explain what happiness is all about and why do we feel it.

To me happiness is that point of time that you feel alive, that moment where things have meaning, and you are content with what you are. However, happiness can sprung from all sort of things from finding a lost valuables to seeing an old friend. Now there is a very importance concept to remember here. That is before happiness can occur the source of happiness must be absent first. In other words, we have to feel sad or longing for something first before we can be happy.

To illustrate this point, to Muslims they feel so happy during Ramadan at the time they are about to break their fast because for the entire day they have been lacking food and drink, thus at the moment of breaking their fast happiness occurs because the thing that they longed for is finally there. However, this is not the only aspect of it they have also proven to themselves that they are discplined enought to abstain from eating.

There are lots of examples on pain and then happiness such as after exams or during graduation. Here people suffered and sacrificed a lot and be happy in the end - that its finally over. Notice that our happiness in graduation is greater than our happiness in finish a subject. This leads us to think that the greater your suffering and sacrifice the higher the feeling of happiness.

What the hell em I leading to? All I am saying is in this world we cannot be perpetually be happy. That is - it is impossible to be happy all the time. Because happiness connotes the presence of something we value, which were previously not there. Now if everything we value is within reach then we will not value them in the first place. That's why rich people are seldom happy since they are never denied of things. While a poor man will be ecstatic and thankful to eat chicken a rich man won't even finish his meal and never feel any form of thankfulness or happiness.

So Dear Folks, if you are feeling bad or sad you are lucky because happiness is just around the corner while if you are happy beware that sadness is just around the corner. Huh!!!

You may be asking how to get out of the cycle sadness and happiness. It's simple but very hard to do. Acceptance is the key, believing that what had happen is meant to happen and everything is for our own good. I'm not being fatalistic all I mean is that we can rise above our emotion and treat the cycles of life as something we need as human being. On the other hand, there are simple ways to be a bit happy if you are sad. Try doing your laundry or cleaning something - somehow its therapeutic and makes us feel good about ourselves even though nothing have changed.