Be Happy You're Not Pretty

Excerpt from James F. Bender

Do you sometimes wonder how life could have been better if you are as beautiful as those people you idolize? Wishing you could swap faces with someone very handsome person you admire? If you do, stop pitying yourself – and start pitying the handsome people you envy. They are the ones who are more apt to be hurt in life by their looks.

Most beautiful people have “royalty complex” a feeling that others are there to serve them by virtue of being pretty. As a result they never develop their full potential and often they have unpleasant personality and fragile character. They easily succumb to life trials and often a victim of a broken heart. At the University of California 600 coeds were rated and it shows that plain girls are more successful than their beautiful counterparts. In the US beautiful people are many times over prone to divorce than plain individual.

The only worthwhile beauty a person can have is, in essence, an inner sparkle produced by a combination of strong character and an outgoing approach to life. If you have this sparkle, it will shine through. Youthful handsomeness of features is simply a skin-deep facade that will wilt rapidly with the years; and before wilting it may give you dangerous delusions about yourself. If you acquire the inner sparkle, you will have the best “good looks” anyone can have, regardless of your age or physical makeup.

My Comments

Indeed beauty has its advantage and disadvantage however the disadvantages far outweighs the benefits. No wonder God was so compassionate He created only few beautiful people. In my experience most of the beautiful people I met are hard to get along with. They somehow possess a deficient personality as if they want everything to revolve around them and be the center of attraction. In my decades of academic studies most of those that excel in class are not the so beautiful and during my brief time as a teacher usually the plain coed far exceed the beauties and handsome in class.

I think the problem with beautiful people is their belief that they can always charm their way to success or get what they want. However, they are deceiving themselves since the effect of beauty is temporary and will fade sooner than they expect. True and lasting love is not brought by beauty but rather by the personality of the person we love. We become endeared to another because of the affection and appreciation we experience and not the outward appearance of that person. When beauty becomes the basis of love it is not true love but true lust. Nevertheless, there are rare beauties that are matched by pleasing personality. These are rare gems who never abuse their God given advantage and think of themselves as rather homely.